traveling

Let’s Be Honest

So what’s new?

Currently working our asses off looking for apartments, found the perfect one but didn’t end up getting it, going through job interviews (well one for me so far), and honestly more set than ever on working even harder with my independent work so that I one day soon can do what I love for a living. Also stuck with a cold and I end up sneezing about twenty times every minute. Jet lag is gone though.

If anyone tells you it’s easy moving to the other side of the world they must be lying – or they’re just rich.

I always talk about how much I love traveling, and also how anyone who has a dream to just move somewhere completely new should “just do it” – and I still mean it.  I just don’t want you guys to thinks it’s the easiest thing – you can get lucky, but it’s still a lot of work. Especially if it’s not just you. I have a feeling most people think it’s harder to move somewhere completely new and foreign all by yourself, rather than with others, but I feel like it’s the other way around. I think you just have to jump right in regardless, you’ll always figure it out. It truly is worth it.

So yeah – I’m currently tired and happy, and even more excited to get properly settled in, see more of Sydney and just experience life here ❤

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Time to get back to work, I’m so ready for this new adventure!

Photographs · Thoughts

How Will We Ever Be Happy With Our Bodies?

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the sun and her flowers by rupi kaur 

i reduced my body to aesthetics

forgot the work it did to keep me alive

with every beat and breath

declared it a grand failure for not looking like theirs

searched everywhere for a miracle

foolish enough to not realise

i was already living in one

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Photo: Mila Ritz

Treat your body like you treat someone you love. Someone who loves you back. You should want to take care of it because it takes care of you. Make sure it’s healthy and happy, because that gives you health and happiness.

I’ve been through ups and downs with my body, and at times I’ve treated it very poorly. I went from being happy and healthy to the opposite when I stepped into the modeling industry. You can read more about that story here.

Everyone always seem to blame “society”. Like we don’t realise we’re part of it. Society isn’t “them”, it’s all of us. It’s the comments, the unrealistic goals that’s never real, and the judgement if you ever say you are happy with yourself.

It starts with us. It will always start with us, you and me. Appreciate your body for what it always was supposed to be. A miracle. Amazing in itself, exactly how it is.

You’re here, aren’t you?

mental health · selective mutism · SM · Thoughts

Skal du jobbe med barn og unge, eller gjør du det allerede?

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Skal du det, så håper jeg du tar deg tid. Tid til å forstå, hjelpe og støtte. Jeg håper du er villig til å ta til deg ny lærdom. Lærdom om de som plutselig en dag kan sitte foran deg bak en pult, på en lekeplass eller når de en dag kommer til ditt kontor for hjelp… Dere er med på å skape en barndom med inntrykk og utfordringer – en følelse av håp eller av nederlag.

Alle kan alltid gjøre litt – og jeg vil være med på å skape mer forståelse. Mer forståelse bak den stille jenta, eller han som ikke prater. En angst lidelse som ikke har fått den oppmerksomheten den trenger. Ikke en gang når den er der, så klart og tydelig, foran så mange mennesker.

Hvis du skal jobbe med barn og unge, eller gjør det allerede – vil jeg veldig gjerne komme til din arbeidsplass og dele min historie. Jeg vil prate om mental helse og selektiv mutisme. Jeg vil sette mer lys på den stille og rolige ungen som prøver å gjøre seg usynlig, fordi de trenger like mye hjelp og støtte som de urolige og høylytte.

Jeg vil veldig gjerne høre fra deg/dere, så har dere noen spørsmål eller vil at jeg skal komme til dere for å holde gjesteforelesning – send mail til fma11824@gmail.com. 

Håper å høre fra dere!

Are you going to be working with kids and teenagers, or are you already? 

If you’re going to I hope you take the time. Take the time to understand, help and support. I hope you’re willing to learn. Learn about the kid that one day might be sitting in front of you behind a desk, at the playground or coming to your office for help… You are part of creating a childhood consisting of impression and challenges – a feeling of hope or hopelessness. 

Everyone can do something  – and I want to be a part of creating more understanding. More understanding towards the quiet girl, or the boy who doesn’t speak. An anxiety disorder that still hasn’t been given the attention it needs. Not even the times when it’s right there, so clear, in front of so many people. 

If you are going to be working with kids and teenagers, or you’re already doing it – I would love to come to your workplace and share my story. I want to talk about mental health and selective mutism. I want to put the attention towards the calm and quiet one constantly trying to disappear, because they need just as much support and help as the loud and restless ones. 

I would love to hear from you, so if you have any questions or if you want me to come to your workplace to speak – please send your email to fma11824@gmail.com.

I hope to hear from you!

personal · Photographs · Thoughts · traveling

It’s My Motivation

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Look how pretty! Katie and I went to this really quiet and calm place in LA some time ago and I saw exactly how I would want it to be the day I wanna settle down. A quiet place in a big city next to the beach and ocean… It’s so weird that I came across it and it was just how I wanted it, all of it. I got the weirdest feeling just looking around but I think I really needed it. Motivation.

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I needed to post this today and I needed to look at the pictures again just because they give me something. It’s not easy when you are timezones away and you feel like you’re not being understood in the way you wish you were. Today I feel like no one understands what’s going on right now (yes I am in LA and super lucky!! But there’s more stuff, pressure and stress being built up), so when people bring me even more instead of understanding me and my words I get really drained and end up wasting a lot of time and energy.

I’m working on getting better at not getting so caught up in it and just stop wasting time trying to make people understand what I see or feel, because it’s just something I can’t always expect.

I believe everything always happens for a reason, and things will work out in my life, no matter what direction it leads me there’s always a reason for it.

I’m so lucky and blessed, and there’s so many struggling and trying to make people understand that you can not keep wasting precious time – you need to love, learn, grow and make time for the ones who gives you positivity in life. And most of all you need to take care of yourself.

I’m gonna make the most out of my day now ❤

Thoughts

I Think You Should Read This

 

can’t be life.

sadly, so many people

are setting the bar really low

in terms of their personal lives

working a job they hate

content with struggling

settling for relationships

life for so many is not living at all

and that’s the problem

you get what you allow

watching others live life

instead of living your best life

and they wonder why everyone

is self-medicating

suppressing their pain

pretending to be happy

instead of trying to cultivate

a lifestyle that brings them peace.

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the control.

and that’s how they control you

they make everything appear impossible

they force you to believe

that you’re almost average at best

they force you to forget about your magic

and with this, you forget about your worth

we are more prone to accept a little

or nothing as opposed to have it all

we’re content with small sums

of what will add up to being without value

in our last days of life

our desire to achieve more

has been buried beneath

the ideals set by those

threatened by an above-average ambition

don’t let them control you

don’t let them define

and or set your limitations

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Poems from whiskey words & a showel

personal · Thoughts

Why Didn’t I Talk?

So I know I have had a lot of people come across my blog after this post. My mom posted it in a group on Facebook and showed me all the response which was incredible. Incredible and tough. It was tough to see that there’s so many struggling. I just wanted to let you all know that you can contact me whenever with any questions you have. I’m happy to share more of my experience and how I managed to get better, to answer any questions or just listen.

I’ll share my other platforms here as well if you want to continue and follow my journey or contact me on any of them ❤️

Instagram: @martefre

Facebook: Press here.

Email: fma11824@gmail.com

Youtube: Press here.

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Can’t help but laugh a bit of this pic. Me and the guy that made it so difficult for me to go pursue my dream 🙂

personal · Thoughts · traveling

Positive And Negative Sides To A Long Distance Relationship

Some of you are probably thinking “What, positive? How can there be any positive sides to it?”

So let’s start with the negative things, which I think some of you might have experienced.

  • You can’t be close! It’s starting to get so annoying only looking at Dan but not being able to cuddle or just touch his hair… Lol. He’s like right in front of me on facetime, but still so far away.
  • You can’t do those everyday things together. Like making breakfast, working out, watching series before bed, and just being weird together. That’s a thing I really, really miss 😦
  • Missing out on memories and experiences together. Especially now that I’m in a new place and I know how much he would love it. I experience new things all the time and there’s so many cool things we could do here together. I can tell him about it, but it obviously won’t be the same because it’s not like actually being here.
  • Fear, worry and insecurity. I know this is a big problem in a lot of long distance relationship. “Where is she?” “What is he doing?” It’s so important to communicate with each other and not just sit on the other side of the world overthinking and questioning, instead of talking and bringing up any fears, worries or insecurities. Dan and I talk everyday and even though it is a challenge being so far away from each other, we both do our best to make it as easy as possibly on the other part.
  • Missing anniversaries, birthdays, celebrations… That’s moments where you really want to have your gf or bf next to you and be able to share it with them. So far we weren’t together for our 1 year anniversary and we’re most likely not going to be together for my birthday either (even though I hope so I have to believe it!!)

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❤ Here’s the positive sides to it:

  • You get to find out how strong you are. How powerful the relationship is. If you really love someone you should be able to still be in a relationship even though you’re timezones away. If there is an important reason for the person being away, and the other part not being able to come – we should still make it work and not be selfish about wanting the person to be close all the time when it affects important aspects in their life.
  • You get to miss each other. I never intended to literally start living with Dan so quickly, and not to forget the first months we were staying in his room. And that is a TEST. Living in a room with someone is a lot because you’re in each others space all the time (I need alone time to function properly). I still think everyone needs to breathe and be okay on their own, obviously still in the relationship, but remembering they are their own person. I can be by myself, and do things without him – as he can do as well – and feel even more so how we value each other and care for each other. I think it’s important to be confident in each other and encourage one another to focus on their own things as well.
  • It’s so nice when you see each other again! I can’t wait to see him, and it’s gonna be soooo nice! I think it’s so weird that from the moment I met Dan the longest I have been away from him has literally been two weeks? Like from the moment I saw his face for the first time. That’s crazy to me, lol. Didn’t think I would wanna spend that much time with someone I’m in a relationship with, but there he was.

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